Dealing With Challenging People: Don’t Hold Grudges, Be Compassionate

Challenging people can teach us invaluable lessons about ourselves. Those people, with their difficult ways, can expose our own idiosyncrasies, quirks, and vulnerabilities. If we pay attention to how we respond to different kinds of personalities, we can learn better ways to respond and better strategies for managing challenging people and situations.

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Dealing With Challenging People: Finding Stamina

Dealing with a challenging person can be a draining experience. Where do you recharge your batteries? The medicine cabinet? The grocery store? The gym? The bar? The yoga studio? Shopping? Some of these activities are more constructive than others, but all of them offer a temporary energy boost. The best place to turn for stamina is inward and focus on your breath. It sounds silly to remind yourself to breathe, but how many times do you hold your breath waiting for an important answer? when you are deeply concentrating on something? when you feel attacked by someone?

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Dealing With Challenging People: Find Patience

We learn when we are young that patience is a virtue. Diplomacy shows us that patience is better than strength. These are both aspirational states for a reason—because they are hard when we are challenged by a person or situation. When we are tempted to get frustrated, we need to remember that patience pays us dividends and impatience buys on credit.

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Driving Results With Others: Opportunities Are Everywhere

Because we will cross paths with people who challenge our thoughts and reactions our whole lives, it's important to learn how to work with them sooner rather than later. They teach us about ourselves and challenge us to be better people. We can take comfort in the fact that, with the right tools and strategies, we can learn to deal with challenging personalities in ways that are constructive and help move us and others forward.

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Dealing With Challenging People: Owning Your Worth

People with challenging personalities get us to react to them by threatening our Ego. When we are belittled in some way—real or imagined—we feel destabilized. Vulnerable, our natural instinct is to strike back or lash out. This is one reason, but not the only reason, that it’s dangerous for our Ego to be in the driver’s seat.

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